Am I too Attached? 7 Signs You Are

“Am I too attached to her?”

Not only children have the problem that they are sometimes way to clingy. It might be cute when you were clinging to the coat-tails of your mother when you were a little boy but it is definitely not cute when you are clinging to the dress of a girl you want to date because you hope this will convince her to stay with you forever. This behaviour is not cute, it is desperate and until this day I haven’t met one woman who would rather date a desperate than a self-confident guy.

Because I wanted to find out more about the reasons for a form of attachment that deserves to be labelled as a sickness, I asked Google for help. Surprisingly, all the articles that I have found only contained advice for women who wanted to know whether or not they were too attached to their man.

That’s all well and good but what do you do when you are a man and you ask yourself the question: “Am I too attached to her?”

I haven’t found any useful advice for guys concerning this topic. Maybe it is because it is not socially acceptable for a guy to admit that he suffers from a minor or even a major form of attachment disorder. Maybe it is because the common belief is that only little vulnerable girls can be too attached and that guys don’t have this problem.

Yeah, right. That’s why there are millions of guys out there who wait every second by the phone to call a woman, who spend all their money on pleasing a girl and who marry some woman who obviously exploits them while they desperately try to fulfil every wish of their house dragon.

We can either continue to pretend that men can’t be too attached to a woman and witness how more and more men do everything to convince a particular girl that she shouldn’t be together with anyone than them, which sometimes even leads to murder.

Or we can finally wake up and realize that a lot of men have the problem that they are way too attached to a girl in their life. From there on we can help them to overcome this disorder and the first step to do this is to conduct a self-analysis that reveals the signs for an extreme form of attachment. That’s exactly what I want to do with this article.

In case you have the feeling that you are to clingy when it comes to a particular woman, you should definitely have a closer look at the behaviour that reveals this disorder. After you have identified your behaviour, it is your decision to work on yourself and to get rid of behavioural patterns that are anything but healthy.

Please ask yourself: “Am I too attached?” while you are reading the following lines and reviewing which of those points you can answer with yes. You are definitely way to attached to her when you…

 

1. Text and Call her All the Time 

Women love to receive a text from you now and then. Thereby, you show the girl you are interested in that you are still interested in dating her. However, every woman hates to receive text after text from you on a steady basis, without even giving her the chance and the time to reply to them.

By doing this you not only communicate to her that you have no other interests and hobbies in your life than texting her, but it also shows that you are a very insecure person. A self-confident guy doesn’t feel the need to constantly get a poof from the girl he is interested in, that she is still together with him and hasn’t dumped him yet. It is even worse when you do this before you are even in a relationship with her.

She can be attracted to you when you approach her and even if she wants nothing more after giving you her number than getting seduced by you, you can fuck everything up by spamming her with texts that communicate insecurity and neediness. Texting a girl is great but every day might be a little bit too much and every hour is definitely the fastest way to lose her.

 

2. Want to Be in a Relationship Before the First Date

If you think you met the girl of your dreams every time a girl reacts positively to your seduction attempts you can definitely answer the question “am I too attached to her?” with yes. I could punch my old self in the balls when I think back to the time when I started my journey of learning the art of seduction because I did this all the time.

Every girl who gave me her number after I had approached a few other girls, who rejected me, was instantly my dream girl. She was the one who liked me, she was the one who was ready to spread her legs for me…she was simply the one.

Then I fucked it up. Then I met another girl who gave me her number and she was even prettier than the girl I met before. I was convinced she would be my future girlfriend. Then I fucked it up again. This went on and on and it didn’t get better from girl to girl until I realized that I could definitely answer the question “Am I too attached?” with yes at this time of my life.

Thankfully, I decided to work on myself and to overcome this insecurity. When you start out with learning the art of seduction, your ultimate goal should be to come to a point of abundance with women. The moment you are at this stage women want to be your girlfriend and you don’t even think about a relationship before you know her for a while and had sex with her a few times. That’s the position you want to be in and please don’t give up before you reached that level.

 

3. Can’t Concentrate on Anything Else

Even if the girl you are interested in looks like Megan Fox, you have to remember that you also have a life besides her. It is not only important to realize this in order to become attractive to her in the first place but also in order to not neglect aspects of your life that are more important than women.

What can be more important than women?

Well, your job, your passions, your career, your friends, your family. I had fellow students who didn’t pass some exams because they couldn’t concentrate on anything else than a certain girl who they didn’t have any sexual contact with. Sometimes those girls didn’t even know that they guys who were nearly sabotaging their whole studies were interested in them, let alone that they existed.

The reason why I want you to become aware of this issue is because I don’t want you to end up like those poor guys.  Don’t make the mistake a focus all your energy on women. Even though I absolutely love to seduce women, my life consists of more than chasing girls.

I have amazing friends, I work out regularly, I follow my passion by writing articles like the one you are just reading and I travel the world. As soon as you focus also on other areas of your life and have an exciting lifestyle, women will be attracted to you automatically.

 

4. Get a Heart Attack Every Time your Phone Rings

I know it’s a great feeling when a girl you are interested in texts or call you, even though the fact that she calls you is very unlikely in this day and age. Even if you are happy to receive a text message from a girl you want to fuck so bad that the sound of her name already forces you to get a medium-hard erection, there is no need to leave everything behind as soon as your phone starts to vibrate.

There is absolutely no need to get a mental breakdown just because you run to the phone and don’t see a text from the girl you want to bang but from your mother who wants to know how you are and if you have enough warm clothes for the winter.

Don’t blame your caring mother for the fact that you are a little bit crazy by waiting in front of your phone while you are staring at the unchanged screen for hours. In case you show exactly this behaviour, you are way too attached.

5. React Offended when She has No Time

How do you react when you call your dream girl, ask her if she has time and she tells you that she is very busy this week? In case you get angry and want to throw your pone against the wall as soon as you end the call, you can definitely answer the question “Am I too attached to her?” with yes.

Maybe you are at a stage where you are convinced that every girl who has no time is lying in your face because she doesn’t want to meet you. Believe me, I have been there. I was even worse than that. I thought that the only reason why a girl decided to not meet me was because she wanted to fuck some other guy.

Please remember that her statement that she can’t meet you on Thursday because she has yoga class might actually be true. Don’t assume a conspiracy theory behind every reply of a girl that isn’t in your favour. A self-confident man who doesn’t have the problem of being too attached to women has better things to do than to be offended when a girl tells him that she hasn’t time to meet.  

6. Would Do Everything for Her

A typical sign that you are way too attached to a girl is that you would do everything for her. In case you are currently in a relationship or at the beginning of one and the following scenarios look familiar to you, you are definitely too attached to her:

Your girlfriend has a ladies night and goes to a club. You don’t go because you have to work the next day. However, you pick her up in the middle of the night, despite the fact that she is very rude to you when she calls you totally drunk.

You just want to go out and have some cheap fast food but the girl you are with wants to go in this fancy restaurant. You hate such places but because you want to get lucky this night, you take her there and you even pick up the bill.

You are about to meet an old friend who you haven’t seen for more than one year. Suddenly your girlfriend decides that she wants to go to the cinema with you. You cancel your good friend by fobbing him off with some stupid excuse.

If only one of the three situations that I just mentioned look familiar to you, you are definitely too attached to her. More often than not this behaviour is a soul-sucking one way street.  Stop doing everything for a girl who doesn’t do anything for you.

 

7. Call it a “Relationship” Before You had Sex

The last thing that proofs that your honest answer to “am I too attached?” is definitely yes is, when you talk about being in a relationship, before you even had sex with her. I don’t know which idiot was the first one who came up with the idea to call something between men and women that is clearly not sexual at this stage a relationship.

However, I know quite a few men, including myself, who have done this crucial mistake at some point of their life.  

Please give me one good reason why somebody should enter a monogamous relationship that implicates sexual exclusivity, without even having sex and without knowing whether or not both of you are a good team in the bedroom?

Let me emphasize this rubbish with a personal example. I absolutely love blowjobs and a life without getting my dick sucked by girls who enjoy doing this, is no life worth living for me. However, when I was younger and inexperienced I made the devastating mistake to end up in a monogamous relationship with a girl who hated giving head. Oh boy, what a stupid decision.

“Am I too attached to her when I tell her we are in a relationship before we had sex?” Yes, you are. In case you have done this recently or are in such a “relationship” right now, please ask yourself if you have done this because you truly want it or because you are scared as hell that she would leave you otherwise. If you are honest to yourself, you know the answer to this question. 

I hope you don’t have to ask yourself again “am I too attached to her?” ever again after having read this article. Now you know in which cases you definitely are too attached. The good news is that I can assure you that the more time you invest with studying the art of seduction and the more seduction success you have in your life, the less you will have to ask yourself this question.

 

Conclusion

“Am I too attached to her?”

In case you can answer one or more of the following aspects with yes, there is a high chance that you are way too attached to the girl you are currently dating or that you want to date.

One clear sign is that you text and call her all the time. A self-confident man doesn’t need constant validation by hearing over the phone that he is still in the game. Another way of behaviour that scares every woman away is when you want to be in a relationship with her before you even went on a date with her. Sorry when I say this but even if you managed to get her on a date, but you can’t concentrate on anything else than her once you got home, you are way too attached.

Don’t blame your mother for the fact that you nearly suffered a heart attack, just because your phone was vibrating and it was her and not your dream girl who was texting you. This is in the same way pathological as it is to be offended if a girl has no time for you. If you are one of those guys who does everything for a girl you are interested in you should ask yourself if you really want to do those things or if you just do them because you are too attached. By the way, never call it a relationship when you never had sex with her. That’s not just a sign that you are too attached…it’s simply wrong.

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